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The Mental Game

Shoulder surgery stopped me in my tracks. I was on a roll, nearly 10,000 words into my third manuscript. My first two? Written in less than three months. Not polished in three months, but the first draft, the heavy outline of the story (over 85,000 words heavy outline) completed in three months. But my current work in progress? Not even close. I’ve started and stopped numerous times. Once because I wanted to revise a different manuscript and query for an agent. Another is because I wanted to change this story’s tone. And now, it’s because of my shoulder.

Can I Do It Again?

The worst part of taking a break, whether by choice or forced, like having surgery, is getting back into it. The longer I go without writing, the less I think I can do it. My mind races day in and day out, especially while lying awake in the heart of the dark nights, that when I’m ready to start writing again, I’ll be incapable. I’ll have forgotten how to bring characters to life. I’ll have forgotten how to create tension. I’ll have forgotten how to engage the reader. Make the story exciting. Interesting. Fun. All of it. And that voice, the one creating fear, creating anxiety, creating uneasiness, makes it harder to start writing again. Because it screams, “Can I do it?”

The Plan

Although I am not 100% recovered, I’m recovered enough to start writing again. But my mind is at war with itself. Part of me is ready to get back to it, jump right in, put pen to paper. But the other part of my brain shouts negative thoughts, filling me with doubts. So here’s the plan:

  • Replace those negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, when I feel like I can’t do it, reassure myself, of course I can. I’ve done it twice before.
  • Talk to myself the same way I’d talk to a friend. I’d tell my friend she’s got this. She’s talented. Talent doesn’t disappear. She’s got this 100%!
  • Even if fear whispers or shouts, I’m going to dive in and start. Why? Because I’ve experienced this apprehension before. Every time I stop writing, take a break, for whatever reason, for any amount of time, this pesky voice rears its ugly head.

Reminders to Myself

When I get back to it, I need to remind myself that the first draft is just that. The first draft. Not the final product. Not the polished version that it will become one day. It’s messy. It’s disorganized. It’s rough. It takes a ton of work after it’s completed to make it shine. And as I read other books and think, “Wow, this author is so much better than me. S/he writes so eloquently. The story is amazing. Not a single solitary flaw it, I wish I could write that well,” I have to remind myself, said author’s first draft didn’t look like what I’m reading. There have been a plethora of revisions along the way. A lot of hours, possibly more than writing the first draft, have gone into polishing it into what it is today. Just like mine.

So although writing can be challenging, the mental game is more challenging. I need to get out of my headspace, for the anxiety about writing is more exhausting than the task itself. Just as it was the past two times. But despite my apprehension, I forged forward then, completing two polished manuscripts, all the while having fun. And I can and will do it again.

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“Twas The Night Before Christmas”––Fact or Fiction?

Since reruns are popular this time of year, I’m pulling this post out of the archives and reposting it. Enjoy!

I’m sorry Clement C. Moore, but I’m calling you out. With all due respect, there is NO way it was the night before Christmas AND “all through the house, not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse.”

Uh, uh. No way. Not buying it.

And “the children were nestled, all snug in their beds while visions of sugar plums danced in their heads”…
Nope. I call B.S. Anyone who has young children knows this is not the way it looks nor sounds on Christmas Eve.

Here’s how it really goes down:

The children are not nestled all snug in their beds. Rather they are constantly coming out of their beds with the following quotes:

“I’m thirsty.”
“Was Santa here yet?”
“I need to go to the bathroom.”
“Did Santa come yet?”
“Is it morning yet?”
“Where’s Santa now?”
“I forgot to give you a kiss goodnight.”
“Did Santa come yet?”
“I heard something on the roof!”
“Was Santa here?”
“I’m hungry.”
“Can I get a drink?”

And “Mamma in her kerchief, and I in my cap, had just settled our brains for a long winter’s nap.” Nope. Don’t think so. There’s no parent who’s sleeping on Christmas Eve.

Here’s what’s really happening:

•Prepping food
•Pre-cooking food
•Cleaning
•Wrapping presents
•Assembling presents
•Removing the elves
•Swearing. Lots and lots of swearing.

So yeah, there may have been “such a clatter,” but it’s inside the house, not out.
While I appreciate the romantic notion that all was peaceful and quiet on the night before Christmas, let’s be realistic; There’s nothing peaceful about it. It’s noisy. It’s mayhem. It’s chaos.

If you were referring to the night AFTER Christmas, well then, that’d be more believable. Sheer exhaustion takes hold, and so yes, “not a creature is stirring, not even a mouse” and yes, “the children are nestled, all snug in their beds.” No one can move after thirty-six hours of no sleep.

Of course, if a woman had written the poem, it’d be a much different poem!